Distraction Or Motivation?

Distraction Or Motivation?

I met a girl.

She is everything I could ever wish for:

• Sweet

• Caring

• Beautiful

• Straight forward

She is not playing any games.

We started dating recently and things are moving fast.

But...

My content has been lacking because of it.

Even when I was not with her, she was still on my mind.

I was texting her late and sacrificing my sleep.

It made me unable to work on the things I love after my draining 9-5.

I’ve managed to turn things around.

Finding a balance between my work and my ideal lifestyle.

Here is how I did it:

1) Knowing your priorities

Having a girl is one of life’s greatest gifts.

But you should never forget about what actually got you out of that dark place.

Your goals.

Just because you got the girl, doesn’t mean that you should give up on them.

If you lose your goals, you will eventually lose the girl as well.

There is a big change that she fell for your ambition and energy.

Therefore, your work should be your first priority.

But that’s not all.

I made a big mistake.

I still prioritized my work, but sacrificed my sleep.

I felt like I could text her late because all the work was finished.

Instead of the usual 8 hours that I sleep, I slept for max 6 hours.

I wasn’t able to work at my full capacity the next day.

Don’t be like me.

8 hours of sleep should be a non-negotiable.

2) Setting clear intentions

We live in a weird age today.

Girls love attention, and they are able to get it instantly from around 100 guys (or more) through social media.

Guys that can give her way more attention than what I am able to give.

So how does a girl accept the little attention that you give her?

By communicating openly.

Tell her what you are up to.

Tell her why it’s important to you.

That’s the only way that she will understand.

I always hated the advice: Be mysterious.

It’s true that more girls would be interested in you if you play mysterious.

But I would rather have 1/100 girls that like me for who I am then 10/100 girls that like me for who I pretend to be.

It’s also 10 times more sustainable.

So be yourself and be open about it.

3) Living in the now

We have all heard it too much but not enough.

Live in the present.

I still struggle a lot with this.

When I should be focused on work, I think about the girl.

When I’m with the girl, I’m still thinking about work.

It is important to keep reminding yourself to be fully immersed in what you are doing at that moment.

Create time blocks for when you work, and stop working when the time is up.

This way, you can create a truly balanced lifestyle.

Isn’t that what we want in the first place?

Isn’t that why we are doing all of this?

To enjoy life and live it to it’s fullest.

Don’t work for your dream life in an illusory future that doesn’t exist.

Live it now.

Much love,

Tibor